Long Time No Blog

It’s been too long since the last entry on this blog. Basically we’ve been so consumed with the details of preparing for our move – getting removal companies to quote, selling even more stuff on eBay, and so on.

But there is one story to tell from last Sunday week. I preached for the final time at one of my churches. At the end of the service the choir wanted to sing me a benediction. I had to stand in their midst while they sang to me. Our two-year-old, Rebekah, was in my arms at the time. As the choir began their rendition she looked at me and blurted out loudly one of her current catchphrases: “What’s that noise?” She isn’t the only one who’s been asking that question!

Moving To Essex

I spent some of this morning tracking down recommended removal companies and phoning them to arrange for quotes prior to our move.

Yesterday I did some research by looking at the website of the local paper. However I needn’t have worried, because Dave Walker at the Cartoon Blog has performed some invaluable research on life in Essex. I am so enriched.

Father’s Day Was Naff

The kids hardly saw me on Father’s Day. 9 am said communion at one church, straight on to 10:30 am at a second, back to the first for 12 noon to approve a document, 4 pm had to obey a three-line whip to be at a service to mark the closure of another church, 6:30 pm take a service at yet another church. Every time I went out my daughter said, “Daddy come back”. I notice since then I’ve stopped saying, “I’m going to church,” because I don’t want her to think that church is what takes Daddy away from her. I’ve been saying, “I’m going to see some people and try to help them.” But the fact is, that on days like Father’s Day, the church does take me away from my children. Some of you will remember that old Daily Mail headline where they attacked the Moonies: ‘The church that splits up families’. The Moonies sued, and lost. But maybe the headline could be applied to mainstream Christianity sometimes?

Father’s Day Was Naff

The kids hardly saw me on Father’s Day. 9 am said communion at one church, straight on to 10:30 am at a second, back to the first for 12 noon to approve a document, 4 pm had to obey a three-line whip to be at a service to mark the closure of another church, 6:30 pm take a service at yet another church. Every time I went out my daughter said, “Daddy come back”. I notice since then I’ve stopped saying, “I’m going to church,” because I don’t want her to think that church is what takes Daddy away from her. I’ve been saying, “I’m going to see some people and try to help them.” But the fact is, that on days like Father’s Day, the church does take me away from my children. Some of you will remember that old Daily Mail headline where they attacked the Moonies: ‘The church that splits up families’. The Moonies sued, and lost. But maybe the headline could be applied to mainstream Christianity sometimes?

You Can Never Go Back Home

Well, it’s been a full six days since I’ve blogged. Life has been manic. We are busy selling possessions bit by bit on eBay (if you want to see what we’re currently selling, I pasted some code into the home page of my main website). Then there is all the protracted negotiations over work to the manse where we shall be moving in August. I might do some real minister’s work some day soon.

But last Sunday was a highlight. I had been invited back to the church where I grew up to take their Church Anniversary. It has changed so much, and for the better. Only the ‘old guard’ remember me from thirteen years ago. It was great to catch up with them, embarrassing when I’d forgotten someone’s name or didn’t recognise them, of course, but also thrilling that there were so many people there who didn’t know me from Adam. A church that had between sixty and eighty adults on a Sunday morning when I left now has about one hundred and seventy, plus fifty to sixty children and teenagers.

The most heartening change was this, though: even by the time I left the majority of the congregation had become majority African-Caribbean (and woe betide you if you mixed up the Ghanaians with the Nigerians, or assumed that somebody from Montserrat was Jamaican!). However it was still in many ways a ‘white’ church. I remember when the first West Indian became a church steward. All the usual comments came out about not understanding what he said when he gave out the notices in a service. But now all the stewards are black and it was apparent that the lady on duty on Sunday morning could comfortably do her duties in the vestry and in the worship gathering in a way appropriate to her culture, and it was now the norm. Her greeting was very West Indian in style, the choir sang a few pieces before the service that would have been known back home in the islands, and so on. No longer were they marginalised, now their culture was at last central to the way the church functioned.

So you can never go back home and find it just as you remembered it, and my sermon took up that theme, with reference to postmodern culture. Too many churches behave like that: a yearning for ‘how it used to be’ when we actually have to live in a different world. Even the West Indians and Africans at my old church, although they bring their customs into worship now and do not suffer the stigma of the past, cannot simply recreate how it once was back home. And for the younger generations, ‘back home’ never was their home: this place is.

It would be interesting to see what shape that church takes if Methodism ever sends them a black minister. That hasn’t happened yet, although I’d hate that to be read in any way as casting an aspersion on the current minister, because he was wonderful in facilitating things for me, and he seems to be regarded very warmly. I just hope he isn’t treated with the old colonial-style deference.

Anger

I’ve been getting quite angry in recent weeks about some things that people either deliberately or accidentally have done to me. My reaction to them has then hurt them, even when I haven’t intended it. Then comes the repair work, and the difficult task of me apologising to those who have hurt me.

So, in catching up on articles on The Ooze, it was sobering to find this powerful true life story from Kevin Clark.

The Endings Are Beginning

I’ve just emailed my last-ever column to the Medway Messenger. If you want to see the article, it will be published in the edition on Friday 17th and subsequently in the ‘Messenger’ section of my main website.

I’ve been writing for them for four years now, and it’s been very fulfilling. Ever since I did a creative writing course in 2003 at the London Institute for Contemporary Christianity that was run in conjunction with the Association of Christian Writers I’ve felt very affirmed in my desire to write. “Don’t be afraid to say, ‘I am a writer'”, is one of the most powerful things I remember being said at the course.

So to lay it down now in preparation for moving is quite emotional. I’m laying it down, not knowing whether I’ll be able to take it up in another form in the new place. It’s a sort of death without knowing whether there will be a resurrection. Then again, Jesus said that if we wanted to save our lives we would lose them, but if we lost our lives for his sake and the Gospel’s we would save them, and I hope that will be true. It certainly feels like a mini-bereavement.

Perhaps that’s over the top and I need to hear the Gospel as proclaimed decades ago by the Pretenders: ‘It is time for you to stop all of your sobbing …’

Moving House

We spent yesterday visiting the ‘manse’ (minister’s house) where we’ll be living when we move on from here in August. My predecessor, who leaves at the end of July, couldn’t have been more helpful. He gave me an excellent briefing on the churches I’ll be serving.

More worrying was the state of the manse. We had been told a lot of work needed doing on it, and we now know how true that statement was. I spent last night composing a five-page letter listing all the things Debbie and I believe need attention. The house was put up quickly by a builder who was more interested in a quick buck, the church authorities a few years ago were in a position of needing to buy a new manse urgently for my predecessor, and the choice of suitable homes on the market was limited.

Make haste and then repent at leisure, they say. Thankfully the church authorities don’t seem to be hanging around in putting things right for us. I guess it’s a bit like the penitent Old Testament sinner making restitution.

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